Dear driver of SUV I pass everyday,
I pass your vehicle almost everyday and get sadder and sometimes angrier every time I see your bumper sticker, “divorce hates children”. The first time I noticed it I was furious with you, a complete stranger, but now, I’m sad for you. I’m sad for you for the way you judge divorcees. I’m sad for you for your closed mind. Why do you group every divorcee in the same category? Do you know what brought every single couple to that decision? I really doubt it. No, divorce is not easy on young children, especially if they don’t understand why, but sometimes it saves them in the long run.
I am a divorced 100% single mom because my child meant so much more to me than an emotionally abused relationship and marriage did. I did not wish for a divorce nor was it an easy decision. It was never in my plans, but plans change. People change. Many divorcees chose their children. We chose to protect our children.
So driver I say to you, please open your eyes and your mind to all the possibilities. Most divorced parents didn’t wake up one day and decided to be done being married. For many the struggle of the decision kept them awake at night for weeks because divorce wasn’t suppose to be in their story until they could take no more and did what was best for them and their children.
So I’m sitting here in my new apartment (well I’ve been here about 2 weeks) anyway, I just can’t stop thinking about how incredibly blessed I’ve been lately. Life is indeed a crazy roller coaster and I have been holding on for dear life the past few years, but my life is finally calming down and actually turning out pretty freaking awesome. I have an apartment that is all mine and that I worked my tail off for, I have an incredibly smart and ornery but adorable little boy, and I have the best family a girl could ask for. They seriously have helped me in ways this past year that I could never ever thank them enough for. I have the best best friend, who is now living back home and spends the majority of her free time at my place. She has always been a huge part of my life (just now a lot closer); she’s basically like my sister. She’s my shoulder to cry on, my ear to vent to, and the person I share crazy laugh filled nights with. I have a job with awesome coworkers and a great boss. I took advantage of the opportunity to go back to school to make a better future of myself and my son. And lastly, I have an awesome God who has never given up on me even when I gave up on him and I could not be more thankful for that.
My life still has many bumps in the road and I don’t have a clear view of my future at all, but each day I get closer and closer to where I want to be. It took me a while to realize it, but I am truly blessed.
So, this is my first post. Please bear with me. I have no clue what I’m doing here. I thought it would be fun to start a blog and get some thoughts out; so I did.
Since this is my first I figured what better to post about than a daily prompt? And I though this would be a perfect one! http://dailypost.wordpress.com/2013/08/08/daily-prompt-dull/
So here goes….
What bores me? Really, the question should be what doesn’t bore me. Many things bore me. I don’t like being still. I’m currently sitting at work on a slow day, you guessed it, being bored. I created this blog out of boredom. Heck, I get bored driving! Yeah…
My phone dies so quickly because I try to use that as a cure for my boredom. I check Facebook and Twitter and Instagram multiple time as if something is going to change. Just last night I got my little to sleep and stuck in a movie and I was sitting for about 5 minutes before I was up doing something else. I forgot about something I had to clean or whatever. I don’t even know.
So why am I so bored? Why is anyone so bored? Because we’re always in a rush. I’ll admit it. I’m always rushing around like a crazy person so when I actually have a second to sit and think, I just can’t do it.
I need to slow down and smell the roses, maybe I won’t be so bored. Maybe.